Throughout your travels, you’ve encountered a wide variety of desirable women. Your last two conquests each ranked a solid 8 on the Player’s scale of perfection, and at last year’s Christmas party, you conducted a perfect round of flirting and landed an extraordinary 9. But when you reach the very peak of the scale, when you spot a woman who defies both physics and reality, it becomes a whole new ball game; it’s the difference between pitching in an independent Guatemalan league and facing down “A-Rod” in Yankee Stadium. The world is a beautiful place, and when one breathtaking angel makes such earthly beauty dull by comparison, you know that you’re in for a significant challenge.

Given your refined knowledge of Player skills and a few surprising facts regarding that spectacular 10, that challenge suddenly becomes a possibility. After all, if you have the inherent capability and acquired experience, you’re already a step ahead, and we’ll use that platform as a springboard to success. Just remember: Not every 10 is fully aware of her magical allure; the Player should be able to deduce whether or not a special approach is even necessary in the first place.

The following assortment of various tips may not be necessary if her behavior is consistent with that of a typical 8. And, hey, you have plenty of experience with the body language of the 8s. The following advice is designed specifically for the women who are 10s, and who damn well know it.

Be relaxed in your approach
OK, so she’s a 10. But you’re not a bad catch yourself, champ. Confidence is an important facet of any approach, but it’s especially crucial when approaching the intimidating 10. She’s likely well aware of her appeal, and she has certainly seen her share of stammering, fidgeting would-be suitors. While the charming befuddlement of a Hugh Grant is often quite effective, let’s bypass that route and center on a stable, calm and secure front. Remember: The courtship process involves two people. While you’re attempting to deal with her significant physical appeal, she’s sizing you up as well, and chances are that she's become quite skilled at weighing and measuring.

Some don’ts to remember: Don’t quickly offer to buy her a drink, don’t hesitate to respond too often, don’t let your eyes dart around the room, and don’t fixate on the safe spot three inches in front of your shoes. You’re probably aware of these obvious tips, but the hottest of the hot can have bizarre effects on a man. Sometimes, her beauty can even render all your experience and training useless, simply because your mind is clouded with her very image. Whatever you do, maintain your dignity and confidence, speak lightly, settle yourself in a comfortable position, meet her eyes every once in a while during conversation, and feel free to crack a joke or two. Just relax and be… well, normal.

Don’t let her beauty intimidate
Let’s face it, approaching a 10 is risky business even for the accomplished Player. For a normal guy, it’s downright terrifying. Take advantage of your own courage and realize that you’re probably one of a very small handful that would chance an approach. Logically -- and mathematically -- speaking, if most men look at her and say, “Yeah, right,” then your chances greatly increase. Now calculate the number of men who actually made the nerve-wracking trek across the room and impressed her. Probably not that many. If you take all of this into consideration, and factor in your own finely honed flirting ability, it becomes surprisingly clear that you’re in a darn good position. Granted, this may not ensure an easier encounter, but it gives you a definite edge. Don’t forget to recognize the embarrassing fact that many men are petrified of beautiful women.

Of course, even the Player is human, so don’t kid yourself into thinking her beauty has no effect whatsoever. There are, however, a variety of ways to overcome the potential intimidation obstacle. First, take solace in the fact that you have plenty of experience in approaching women. You’re better equipped to handle the situation than most. Second, the competent lady's man understands an initial rejection isn’t the end of the world, and follow-up opportunities may present themselves in the future. Third, this isn’t an all-or-nothing scenario -- you can always fall back on an 8 or 9 without much difficulty.

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