The girl next door isn’t just an idealistic concept starring Elisha Cuthbert. When the situation presents itself, it’s a realistic opportunity for the savvy Player to test his game -- and whether you live in an apartment, condo or house, such opportunities shouldn’t be missed.

Keep in mind, however, that scoring your neighbor isn’t the same as landing a bar maid in the dusky shadows of a random club. The woman next door, since she’s privy to a few details that aren’t exactly public knowledge, likely knows a bit more about you than even some of your best friends. Here are some points to remember as you attempt the neighbor hook-up: She may have seen you wear the same tie two days in a row, she might have seen you pick up the newspaper in an old bathrobe and slippers, she’s likely familiar with some facets of your daily life, and she may have received some of your mail, which she discreetly placed in your box.
 
There are several ways to approach that delectable single female next door, and most require you to be either proactive or subtle with a not-so-hidden ulterior motive. I suppose you could play the flirting game and hope for a magical spark to ignite, but that’s a boring waiting game that isn’t guaranteed to yield results and gives her far too much control of the situation.

If you want a decent shot at some neighborly nooky, take a gander at some of the strategies that I’ve found to be effective. A Player’s warning: In this situation, your anonymity isn’t secure. You’ll have to welcome the girl next door into a part of your life that is normally off-limits to other women. It’s risky, but you have to adapt and assimilate in order to be successful.

Create intimacy from proximity
There are multiple opportunities to create intimate exchanges between the two of you because of the small space (the building’s entrance, elevator, hallway) that you share. The fact is that nothing makes a woman feel more liked, wanted or appreciated than if you ask her for advice on one of her favorite topics. Perhaps you know that she maintains a vegetable garden -- ask her the best way to start and use her advice when you plant your garden. Perhaps you know that she’s an accountant -- ask for some help with those tricky filings during tax season. There are a million possibilities here, especially if you take the time to do a little research about your desirable neighbor.

A perfect icebreaker is to ask her for a favor when you to leave on a business trip or pleasure cruise. Ask her to watch your place, pick up the mail, water your plants, and feed your cat while you’re away  Doing so shows that you see her as a reliable, trustworthy individual, and the situation will provide you with at least two opportunities to talk to her: before and after. And once the “after” rolls around, you now have an excuse to thank her for her efforts while you were gone. The beauty of this plan is its simplicity; we don’t expect you to go psycho and fabricate a trip and sleep in a motel for a few days. That would be a tad extreme.