You’re in the throes of passion when suddenly you call out your ex-girlfriend's name. Oops. Your credibility just went out the window and, no doubt, the passion went with it -- for weeks. Slip-ups happen to all of us, but some are worse than others. You will pay the price for your clumsiness or laziness in the worst possible way -- no, not with your wallet, but with your ability to get laid. As with most things sex-related, people are a bit shy to talk about it. If you stink, she may not say, “You stink,” but instead will just refrain from getting too close to you. Get the drift?

Here are some very good reasons why it will be your own fault if you miss out on a romp between the sheets. Take heed -- you won’t be warned again.

Saying an ex’s name
Every woman would like to think she is the only one. Yes, she knows you have had intimate moments with other women, but she doesn’t want to hear about it. Saying an ex’s name during sex blasts her illusions into the stratosphere and really, ain't reality a bitch? It brings up certain questions, like, “Are you thinking about her while you are having sex with me?” and “Do you wish I was her?” -- her mind will be whirling out of control. Not conducive to happy relations, that's for sure. 

If you do happen to make this huge blunder, be extremely apologetic, massage her feet and take her out for a romantic dinner. Don’t stop brownnosing until she forgives you. She will, eventually. But first, you'll have to prove that she is the only one for you and that it was an honest mistake and that, no, you don’t think about anyone else but her -- ever -- because she is the most beautiful, intelligent, witty, and fantastically sexy woman you have ever met. And we aren't exaggerating here. 

Excessively aggressive behavior
You are not the only man in the universe, and her needs and desires are just as important as yours. Forcing your will upon her by being too aggressive will turn her straight off, and she will avoid having sex because she isn’t getting what she wants and she isn’t feeling it. 

If you want to have anal sex, ask her and take it slow, don’t just try to put it in there. If you want to patronize her and call her a "good girl," do it on your own time -- she is not a child, and using these words is a mistake of pedophilic proportions. Introducing your weird fetish requires time and trust, and you can’t make her do anything she doesn’t want to do. To force the issue negates everything a healthy sex life is based on: communication, trust and desire. If you want to dominate her, make sure it’s what she wants you to do too, not just what you want. 

Be gentle and firm, and before engaging in any aggressive sexual behavior, make sure that she's up for it. Otherwise you could be left high and hard with a very turned-off woman on your hands.

Begging her to do things she doesn’t want to do
A begging man is not attractive. If you want a blow job, go down on her first and do a good job -- fair is fair. If you want her to dress up in a maid's outfit and dust you off, make it seem like a hot idea -- don’t just pull out the tacky outfit you bought online for $19.95 and beg her to wear it.  

If you really want something she isn’t keen on, then you need to talk about it outside of the bedroom and establish whether you actually have a chance at getting it or not. Begging for sexual favors is not sexy, it’s crass.  Don’t do it.  

Poor hygiene
This is a biggie. Farting, burping, smelly pits, smelly genitals, and unwashedness in general are all very uncool. If you want sex, make sure you are prepared -- no doubt she is, so follow suit and keep clean. It is a known fact that the chemicals in men’s sweat cause physiological changes to women. In general, it gets their motors running just that little bit more. This is not an excuse to be a sweaty pig, because even if she is slightly hotted up with your pheromones, the stench you emit will put her off. Shower at least once a day, and no matter what kind of work you do, freshen up straight after you come home. If she happens to get the urge to suck you off at any given moment, she needs to know that she won’t encounter a cheesy, nasty monster. One bad experience will be enough to keep her well away for a long time.  

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